Thoughts on Friendships and Growing Up

You know how in high school we would get this magical thing called Spring Break? Some families would go on vacations; others would be stuck at home because mom or dad had a full time job they couldn’t take time off from. And the kids who got to go on vacations would come back tan with tall stories about their wonderful times. It always seemed to me like those kids got the upper hand of Spring Break. They got to go on a break while the rest of us stayed home, with nothing more to do than visit Sonic late at night and go shopping at the mall just like any normal week.

 

But, the real Spring Breakers were at a disadvantage too. They would come back to school, completely out of the loop on what went on in the suburbs during the weeklong break. Oh, Jim and Pam are dating again? Sally the hopeless freshman got drunk? Those Spring Breakers didn’t know that any of this had happened in their time of absence. They saw friendships shift, allegiances switch, and suddenly they aren’t so sure how to navigate the testy waters of the high school social circuit. But, with a certain amount of time, they learn to float with the tide, and everything goes back to normal. But there are those few days that are spent halfway in the dark, wanting to scream, “What else don’t I know anymore?”

 

My parents never took me anywhere on vacation for Spring Break. Sure, there was that one Spring Break where we toured (2) colleges, or when I spent the whole break figure skating somewhere else. But, I never was totally in the “high school social circuit” when I was in high school. I have, however, noticed that this trend persists, not necessarily pertaining to spring break or high school, but throughout your whole life.

 

This summer was the first one I spent completely away from my home. I didn’t stay in close contact with my high school friends or my church friends. Nothing has changed drastically, but I do keep getting thrown for a loop when someone mentions something that I have no prior knowledge of.

 

It’s hard to enter back in to friend groups that you’ve been out of for a while. I had to, after spending a year of online schooling, when I came back to public high school. Those first few days back contained the most shy me I’ve ever been. But, as we grow up, and as our old best friends turn less and less “best”, we have to get used to this fading out of friend groups. If you aren’t constantly with someone, and you don’t purposefully maintain contact on a regular basis, your friendship will inevitably change. This isn’t a bad thing, it’s just life.

 

Whenever I make a new friend, I always assume that friend will be mine for life. And to a certain extent, it’s true. But it will fade. The “friendship light” won’t go out completely, but it may change. As I get older, I’m starting to realize that this just happens. In the past, I took it very personally and thought I had done something to make someone not want to be my friend anymore. Now, I know it’s all a part of growing up.

 

Friends change, rumors change, lives change. That’s just the way it is.

20 Women Who Are Changing The World

So. It’s Thursday. Yayyyyyy.

Yesterday I wrote about how I would post one inspirational thing every Wednesday, yadda yadda yadda.

But I’m going to do that thing again today.

I’m sorry, I just had to…it’s so good.

 

women changing the world

Marie Claire posted an article about the “20 Women Who Are Changing Your World.”

These women work for organizations that they created to help make the world better. For example, Alicia Keys is cofounder of Keep a Child Alive which provides people in Africa and India with food, medicine, and care. Gabrielle Giffords is cofounder of Americans Responsible for Solutions, which advocates for gun laws. These women are making a huge difference in the world. It’s empowering to us, as young women, to see how much women can accomplish.

 

I have a passion for changing the world. As a little kid, I thought everyone wanted to. Ever since I was little I wanted to go to Africa to help. Now that I’m older, I see so much more of the world and all that it needs. When I finally have a career, I want it to be in something that affects positive change in the world. That’s one of my personal requirements for a job.

 

What really stuck out to me was a quote from Rachel Lloyd, founder of the Girls Educational and Monitoring Services. She was asked what people would be surprised to find out about her, and she answered that she loves home decorating, clothes, and shoes. But she also said

“I think people think, when you’re a leader in this work, that you spend all of your time thinking about how to change the world, but as a complex, normal human being, you have to have other things in your life that make you happy.”

 

For anyone that knows me, I have trouble finding balance. I like to go 100% at whatever job I’m doing, or whatever passion strikes my fancy for the moment. Like when I’m in my I-want-to-change-the-world mindsets, I want to give up all of my possessions and immediately do all in my power to help.

 

But that doesn’t affect efficient change. Sometimes being too radical in your ideas, while a good thing, can also not be as helpful as donating a little time at first to something, instead of throwing your entire life into it. If you want to be in the business of humanitarianism, that’s great. But you also are allowed to have other hobbies. I didn’t really believe that until today.

 

So if you want to be a woman or man who changes the world for the better, relax. You don’t have to throw your likes and interests away to do it. It’s better to keep your personality in your work, and you’ll be a lot happier.

 

Happy Thursday, and go change the world.